love stories: mom + dad


For the first in my series of love stories, I wanted to start with my mom and dad.
They have been married now for 54 years. I have heard a lot of stories about college (where they met) but I have never as an adult asked them how they fell in love, or how did they know they were each others “one”.  I asked them both two simple questions. While my father (a writer) and my mother (a professor) had very different reactions to my questions, they both said it wasn’t a singular second, but it was based on friendship, that grew over time, and transformed from a friendship to a forever romantic love. However, in separate conversations they both mentioned a specific night, that they both knew (it was the same night).


Was there one singular moment when you knew you fell in love?

Dad: I seem to remember getting to know your Mom over a period of maybe six months. I was a junior at Brown. She was a sophomore. I met her the first day of a theatre class. I remember, of course, that she was very beautiful. It wasn’t a big class, so we started talking and then going out for coffee and going out for coffee more and more and then there was a night – it must have been six months after we met – that I walked her back to her dorm and it hit both of us that it was more than a good friendship.  And it proved to be, didn’t it?

What about your love (or loving somebody) makes you a better person? 

I think loving somebody – anybody – is good for you because it makes you think beyond yourself.  Putting yourself second to someone else – that’s it.


Mom: love is private, it is a bond that two people share together. The one day you make it public is your wedding day. We were friends for a long time before we fell in love, but I do remember one date we had when I knew we would get married.

Pictured above Their 50th wedding anniversary & their wedding day, June 13, Bloomfield Hills, MI. Below, biking around Martha’s Vineyard, 1960. I love the 1950’s bridesmaids dresses! And I can’t get over how handsome all the groomsmen look in their white dinner jackets! Have you ever asked your parent’s their story? How about you? What defines love for you? xokate




1 comment
  • Pam - so beautiful. I love the old 50’s wedding picture, everyone lined up so neatly, and the white dinner jackets. Your mother is beautiful!ReplyCancel

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